Check out this great woman-to-woman advice from other iVillagers:
Be proactive in your adoption.... Don't just wait for the agency or lawyer to find you a child. Go out and help to make it happen. It's very empowering after feeling powerless dealing with infertility.--dana1956
When the right situation comes ... it will move along. Watch for red flags, consult with professionals, but listen to your heart. The majority of adoptions have some bumpy spots, but you'll get through them if this is the right child.--donnach
Understand your limitations.... and don't let anyone talk you into anything you are not comfortable with (although you should keep an open mind!)--emmacarolinesmom
Reach out for support during tough times.... Our first adoption took a long time. During the midst of it, I got really down and avoided the support groups that we had been going to during the initial phases. In hindsight, I think that was a big mistake, and I would have been better off mentally if I had not withdrawn.--pbj mom
Be prepared for a loooooonnnnnngg wait.... That way, if it's shorter you'll be pleasantly surprised!--jlosburn
